Ep: 18 – In Training

Let's talk about self growth through the lens of an outsider. In today's episode:

• There’s a vote for you in the stories! Check them to get the details 🙂
• Samar shares what happened with her and her trainee at work. 
• Importance of knowing yourself is discussed.
• They both discuss the ramifications of a society not interested in therapy.
• When are you the Trainer or a Trainee? 

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Samia + Samar

Basic Breakdown:

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Samar shares what happened when she found herself observing a trainer dealing with a very emotional person who had breakdown at work.  As Allah would will it, the following day, much to Samar's dismay, she was in the trainer's position where her trainee was having an emotional moment and Samar had to guide her through it by giving her time and space.

Samar is bothered that she does not bring emotions into work and other people do not care about that.

Also, she mentions that there is more than just venting emotions but knowing how to move forward.

Samia suggests that a relationship dynamic occurs because trainee is looking at trainers to help through.  Samar says that this is a needed life skill. 

Samia says that this is a continuation of the conversation in the previous episode about communication skills and how people do not know how to communicate what they need or want effectively.

Samia shares her life coach journey when in the beginning, her life coach realized that there was not any progress being made because she, as the one leading the sessions, needed to make a change according to what would serve her.  She needed to understand how Samia works and once she did, the sessions become a lot more effective and resulted in much more progress.

Some times people are not able to communicate what they need due to many reasons. 

Samia mentions that Samar was able to understand that she was being frustrated and that is a mindfulness skill.  

Samar feels burdened by emotional unloading by people in her personal lives as they keep on unloading without having solutions.  Samia says that they both had similar personalities as a problem solver but she does not mind people sharing her feelings.

Although, they are both frustrated when the people do not zoom out and see the main issue that needs to be worked through.  But people in general do not want to find solutions but want to vent their feelings. 

Samia shares her personal experience while moving when she was dealing with stress and anxiety - without knowing of the anxiety - and how it was mismanaged and mishandled.  She didn't know until someone told her and she sought out help and treatment to walk through.  She needs to physically slow down and that has been very helpful. 

Being able to ask someone and working through it requires time and a process that many are not able to walk through. 

Samar discusses how that is something bigger in our society for not wanting to talk about things that matter, to self improve, to address their mental concerns.

They both share their frustrations with friends who unload on them, being untrained as they are, and they felt the burden and now deal with it differently.  It is important to direct people to the help they need because you do not want to give them the wrong advice or put on the hat of a therapist when we are not qualified.

Samar figures out that Samia has used that one trick on her even though Samia was not talking about her.  

They both discuss where they fall on the spectrum from a Trainer to a Trainee.  It depends life situations where we call fall in both of those camps.

Be a good communicator as a trainee or as a trainer.   Know that you have the power to grow and you can choose to do so or not do so, but that is your choice.

They both ask you, the audience, to share with them when you were wearing those two hats - of a Trainer or a Trainee.  

See you next time!